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How Do you Heal A Broken Heart?
Posted by red86 • 6/12/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: life, love, self
They Say when you're out of words to say,
"sing it with a song"
what if you're run out of melody and cant make even a hymm?
You how do you mend? when your heart is broken?
User Comments
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you f**k her best friend, and or sister.-
good idea -
That is soooo crude!
Spread your love? -
Bad idea - childish and revengeful. By treating the sister or friend as a sex object simply to get revenge you gain nothing and make yourself into a bigtime loser. If you treat another human being like an object you not only demean that person but you also demean yourself and risk losing your self respect. -
u rock! -
ahaha, great idea! -
Thanks everyone. I thought it was a great idea too
TT- misery loves company. -
dbowles .. how did I not marry you? -
That is the million dollar question floormodel
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LOL. That's one way of handling it. -
Lol...babes(gosh it wont end!)
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A couple of six packs will do it.
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Bad idea, again. Self medicating with alcohol, drugs, food and/or casual sex only provides temporary escape. Get into that and you only prolong the healing process and intensify the pain you suffer because you will also be ashamed of yourself.
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(me i will just cry for a night, until there's noo tears will fall; And when i face tomorrow. I'am new person ready to fall in love again)
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Crying is a good idea. You have suffered a loss and we all need the endorphins the brain releases when we full experience true grief. But grief does not dissipate over night - know this and be prepared to experience all of your feelings. It will take time for those emotions to dissolve and for you to find the answers to why you two were a bad match deep within yourself.
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drown myself in my job.make myself busy so there's no time to think about it.and keep in my mind i'll get someone better than him -
My advise is to use tissue glue!
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Cure yourself of the love disease. Realize that your happiness and self-worth don't depend on the attentions of another person.-
aaahhhhhh.... it touches...
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Well said.
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Good advise -
@ nothingprofound.Except for the first line, agree with the rest. -
love it! love it!
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Chocolate! =D -
Learn how to function happily as a single person again and avoid getting into a rebound romance. Awaken to the fact that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and that’s alright. Accept your feelings and examine them closely so you can understand yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually and have more to offer in your next relationship.
Forgive yourself, know that every failure contains within it all the instruction required to be successful next time. Failures: Stumbling Blocks or Stepping Stones? thistimethisspace.com/2009/01/31/failures-stumbling-blocks-or-stepping-ston... Forgive your ex also, and move into the head space where you can say "good person but wrong relationship" without any bitterness.-
aaahhhhh.... that is so romantic...
i feel that. -
you know your blog, there's a little similarity in mine...
"it's about personally wise and living in this life"
nice blog!
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Listen to music...or play music lol. -
hangout with friends and distract your attention -
Time heals all wounds -
I kind of think sometimes that isn't always true
Sort of like the saying, you can forgive but never forget.
Those are 2 different issues and most will argue that they are the same.
What do you say TT?-
ah?
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Hey, Angie! I'll reply to that. Time heals all wounds, but the wounds leave a scar. Usually we don't think about them, but sometimes we do.
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I hear you.
And scars suck!
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Band-aids.
Or masking tape.
Depends on how broken it is. -
Oh I 4got to say time,a good friend,and a bay breeze wouldn't hurt
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where there is clinging, there is pain-
The sun is shining, the air is crisp and you're a human being.. so stop dwelling
Go swim in different circles and ask the girl out on the counter in your favourite coffee shop.
It's just coffee, right? -
Atomlake
I like your approach.
My logic is that about half the worlds population is female. That's a lot of beautiful woman/ human beings to form an association with
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Is it really the Heart or the Ego ?-
Good question. Sometimes we have to think about that.
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start to date with another person. Just think that he/she is not the right guy for you.-
A friend told me another friend of him does 100 times in a year and asked if he's happy he realized that no.
Just leave without: there are a lot of advantages: no more spending money for Flowers, Diamonds etc.
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don't get it broken in the first place-
well said
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but loving someone is a "trial and error" on the first place.
we dont even know what might happen.
assuring to never "make it broken" is like
"you don't want to love anymore",
because loving response to pain.
or we can say going into the the process of "break ups"
maybe we might get hurt and sometimes it's really painfull
but at the end of the day
it's not the "pain that matters..."
but "the love you've shared with him/her."
- it's just that, there are stupid people that do not and cannot
see or feel the love that we give.
- and it's really funny that some people realized it...
"when it's over".
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By being kind to yourself and letting yourself cry, finding things daily that can give you joy, learning to enjoy being single, going places, doing things, laughing with friends, new hobbies or activities. -
When a relationship doesnt work out, realize that maybe it happened for your own good. Perhaps, you havent met your soulmate yet. He/She is there somewhere searching for you. And this failing relationships are just stepping stones till you find him/her ... Believe. -
Time heals everything.
Especially a broken heart...-
sometimes we tell to our selves that we mended already.
but everytime we see that person.
the pain will suddenly remain and sadly...
you see him/her with some one else...
and not you...
"saying you're we're okay sometimes doesnt' reflects in our real
feelings"
it hurts...
but it's true... -
It's all about the way you feel about this broken relation.
1. If you feel it's only your loss.... you are hurt
2. If you feel it's also his/her loss that he/she doesnt have you anymore... then I guess you would actually feel you're fine even when you see him/her with someone else... because u know that they too have lost something/someone precious.
Take pride in yourself.
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*turn him/her into a youtube star, a pornstar/nude model
*create a radio station that plays all of your recordings of him/her bad mouthing & gossiping everyone you both know.
*sell her/his belongings on ebay
*make hooker ads and profiles on social networks listing phone #
*go to the future, send back a cyborg to destroy her/him in the past
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im just joking. way i see, a boat leaves a yatch comes. If someone doesn't want me, it's not the end of the world. but then again, my heart is intact...
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love yourself so much that you forget the one who broke your heart.
treat yourself like a king till you realize the big truth "you are the greatest emperor (after god) to yourself" -
I agree, time heals everything. Sometimes it’s hard to sleep or eat, but I was young and I got over it. -
the cure to a broken heart is a new love, you know that.
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From personal experience:
Don't listen to sentimental songs.
Talk to your close friends for shoulders to cry on
Keep youself busy
It will heal faster if you find another person to love.
If that doesn't happens, hang in there - time will heal-
ouch!
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What Is Broken IS Broken. Sit And Sing A Dirge! Or, Go Play Football, Basketball, Or Even Ride A Bicycle. Choices Are Enough. Heart Is One. Fortune? -
I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do.
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.
I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, noone said a word about the sorrow.
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.-
Oh brother
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Is that BeeGees?
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Sure is! *ding, ding, ding--we have a winner!*
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Can you feel my pain
Can you feel my pain
With so much lost was nothing gained
Can you feel my pain
Can you see my tears
Can you see my tears
Rolling down my face for all these years
Can you see my tears
And I lift my voice to Heaven
Lord how much can I stand
It's getting rough down here on this brokenhearted man
Can you hear my pleas
Can you hear my pleas
Bent, broken and on my knees
Can you hear my pleas
And I lift my voice to Heaven
Lord how much can I stand
It's getting rough down here on this brokenhearted man
Can you see my heart
Can you see my heart
Barely beating and ripped apart
Can you see my heart
And I lift my voice to Heaven
Lord how much can I stand
It's getting rough down here on this brokenhearted man -
@red86
It is better to have a broken heart than to have no heart at all! I hope this little refrain will bring some comfort to you!
" Whispering Hope, O how welcome your voice,
Making my heart in its sorrow, rejoice!" -
She's out of my life
She's out of my life
And I don't know whether to laugh or cry
I don't know whether to live or die
And it cuts like a knife
She's out of my life
It's out of my hands
It's out of my hands
To think for two years she was here
And I took her for granted I was so cavalier
Now the way that it stands
She's out of my hands
So I've learned that love's not possession
And I've learned that love won't wait
Now I've learned that love needs expression
But I learned too late
She's out of my life
She's out of my life
Damned indecision and cursed pride
Kept my love for her locked deep inside
And it cuts like a knife
She's out of my life -
Try this:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2_GBhFtM2U
What he's singing:
Where have you gone, o golden days of my spring?
What does the day coming has in store for me?
It escapes my eyes, it is hidden!
Shall I fall to the deadly arrow, or will it pass by?
All for better, there is a pre-determined time
For life and for sleep
Blessed is a day of simple tasks
And blessed is the day of troubles.
Will the day beam shine in the morning
And the bright day shall reign
And I, well, will I, perhaps, will descent
Into mysterious darkness of my fatal tomb?
And the memory of a strange poet will fall into Abyss
The world shall forget me, but you, you, Olga!
Tell me, will you, the maiden of beauty, come to shed a tear
Over the early urn
And think "he loved me, he devoted to me
The gloomy dawn of a troubled life!"
Ah Olga, I did love you,
To you alone I devoted
The gloomy dawn of my troubled life
Yes Olga, I did love you!
My wonderful friend, my dear friend,
Come, for I am your husband, etc.
Where have you gone, o golden days of my spring?
Eta pa Russkii, eta harasho, nyet? -
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How do you heal a broken heart?
I don't know, I'm still trying to find out.
Answers on a postcard.-
why did you also gone through break up?
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Yeah, broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago.
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i see, i wish for joy for you... and hope you will find someone you really deserved.
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Hookers, Leonard Cohen, Red Wine
Wont mend it but make it more bearable for a bit -
Gin and a loaded BB gun. (Use the BB gun before the gin so you don't miss). -
Lots of ice cream and chocolate. This will get you through most heartaches. -
Do u think the purpose of ur life is just to bring a particular person in ur life ?
Do you watch romantic movies ?
Please take Unspunomer's suggestion into consideration, and believe me it helped me to come out of the dream lands.
@ Unspunomer,
Ur suggestion is the best ! -
I would have to eat something fattening and listen to sad music. Then go out with friends and find some one new. -
Broken heart? Weld it with steel. "Steel-hearted momma", "steel-hearted man." Seems to work. -
it's perfectly normal to hurt and to grieve a little over a broken heart just don't let it consume you. Don't spend all your time crying or rethinking every moment, go out with friends or if none are available go for a walk, rent a movie, take a class.. let yourself heal and let yourself move on. It's going to hurt, it always does but it's okay to teach yourself to focus on other things after a little sad time.
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Time. Time heals all wounds.
Other than that, just focus on you. Make some time for hobbies you always wanted to take up. Treat yourself and don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Who's number one? You're number one! Don't forget that -
I get a lot of "favorited and stumbled" posts written, create a playlist and move on. -
Eat! -
Hmmmm... is saying time and configuration naive? Dwelling too much can be benefical but also a blockage to new things. Focus on more experiences where you can apply more of you and your heart is a risk but a risk that can make us stronger - holding back is an innate response but not a full way of living. At some point we have to somehow pick ourselves up and try again.-
that's right, and always reliazing the past's can't help.
"moving forward and seeing everyday as a day of living with joy and love is the most important".
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I Don’t Know Why
by: Red
We’re now on separate days
Moving on our separate ways
But still i feel the pain
It’s makin’ me insane
And now that I’m alone
I know i should go on
‘Cause losing you is making me crazy
I feel so crazy
Refrain One: I just thought that you and I can be together
Dreaming we could be forever
Chorus:
i don’t know how, i don’t know why
it’s still hurtin’ me inside
your memory lingers in my mind
i don’t know how, i don’t know why
though i know we we’re apart
i still love you girl
i don’t know why
i’ m still catching air to breathe
you’ll be back, i still believe
but it seems my hope is gone
cause it’s just a dream
only a dream
Refrain Two: wishing that you and i can be together
Prayin’ we could be forever
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Bridge:
It doesn’t matter time will keep me wait
i love you girl, i hope you still feel the same
it doesn’t matter how long it will take
i’ m longing, i’ m begging
you come back to me and stay here with me
i’ m sorry before i didn’t give so much more
do you hear my song
i’ m dying in my core-
this is the song i wrote, when the time i felt that it's too hard to let someone you used to love "go".
you can check other articles in my blog also in
"my gateway of innovation"
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make a crazy move!
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all i can say is sort it.
before your heart attacks you.
(tis what happened to me)
love+light to you+yours -
@red86
You inspired me to write a blog post. Here's the link to it
thistimethisspace.com/2009/06/14/healing-your-broken-heart/
It contains a link to a slide show and music by John Mayer
- Dreaming with a Broken Heart
Continuum
When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The waking up is the hardest part
You roll outta bed and down on your knees
And for the moment you can hardly breathe
Wondering was she really here?
Is she standing in my room?
No she's not, 'cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The giving up is the hardest part
She takes you in with her crying eyes
Then all at once you have to say goodbye
Wondering could you stay my love?
Will you wake up by my side?
No she can't, 'cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
Now do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands?
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands?
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my , roses in my hands?
Would you get them if i did?
No you won't, 'cause you're gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....
When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The waking up is the hardest part-
really? ahhhh... : )
i'm happy for you...
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I hope you are feeling better today.
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yup! i feel great!
you can check this story i wrote 2 years before...
i just hope you'll like it... -
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I visited and I read The Reflection. Thank you for sharing it. Take good care of yourself.
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Get on with your life. Make new friends, find new interests, keep busy. Worry about you and not the other one. Move on. Of course watching sappy movies with ice cream and wine don't hurt either as long as you don't make a habit of it. It will get better. -
"what if you're run out of melody and cant make even a hymm?"
Then you call these guys - www.youtube.com/watch?v=COqUjfrB8dI -
pint of ice cream, couch and blanket, in front of tv (all mtv and vh1, u know the shallow shows that have no depth)..and a friend who is a phone call away JUST IN CASE -
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ha ha ha... that was funny...
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Focus on new hobby, this will eventually take the pain of broken heart away.
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meh, my previous answer is no longer applicable. I haven't a clue anymore how to heal it... otherwise I would be out doing it right now
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I go for a really long drive out in to the country, and reflect on what's more important then they are.
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i never thought my post is still active : )
thanks for those who replies...
it really means alot! -
1) I put my hope in God and know that He will heal my heart
walk-in-light.com/2009/06/20/tears-that-lead-to-hope/
2) I think about how growth and wisdom are gained through suffering
walk-in-light.com/2009/07/09/how-suffering-changes-us-for-good/ -
put a bandage
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As John Lennon said "time wounds all heels"...-
Or, as Van Morrison sang:
(written by Deadric Malone, Joe Scott)
When you got a headache
An you try to soothe the pain
Go right back to sleep
And you'll feel all right again
When ya got a backache
Little rubbin' will see you through
When you got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
There ain't nothin' you can do
There ain't nothin' you can do
When you got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
A man can't break a stone
So he tried another lick
Iceman can't break his ice, Lord
So he tries another pick
An electric lights go out
Candle light will see you through
When you got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
There ain't nothin' you can do
There ain't nothin' you can do
When you got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
Hey!
[Instrumental & guitar solo]
Man can't break a stone
So he tried another lick
Iceman can't break his ice, Lord
So he tried another pick
'Lectric lights go out
A candle light will see you through
When ya got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
There ain't nothin' you can do, Lord
There ain't nothin' you can do, hey!
When you got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
Ev'ry time I think about it
Ev'ry time I think about it
When ya got a heartache
There ain't nothin' you can do
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they say,
read can release
write can express
it's a simple yet the best tool to mend a broken heart. -
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hmmm?
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hmmm?
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It is obviously not a pleasant experience but I will like to say Time is one of the best healers... Provided the individual does not spiral downhill but instead takes action once they have the strength to do so. -
Stay busy because only time can heal a severely broken heart.
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TIME -
I truly do wish I knew,cuz that is how my heart has been,as of lately.
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