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Would you marry for money?
Posted by gosmelltheflowers • 8/19/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: divorce, flowers, grabbing, greed, happy, love, marriage, money, soulmates, unconditional
Your input please, to help GO! Smell the flowers settle a 'healthy difference of opinion':
Some are cynical about money grabbing marriages where others are more romantic and believe there must be love involved.
Whaddaya say? We would appreciate any examples where people have married for money or just for the unconditional hell of it.
Would you say relationships are based on the bank balance or can they truly be unconditional?
More examples welcome here and at our blog post:
www.gosmelltheflowers.com/blog/archives/823
So, would YOU marry (or have you) for money?
Cheers!
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No i wont. I still want to earn money from a hard work or better by blogging.. lols!-
Blogging is one way - but would you marry someone for their blog in that case? A millionaire links kinda guy :0)
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it's good, We don't lose our existence with money
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I'll marry for money...just email me.-
Ha! How devilish!
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me too?! hahaha
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Nope, I won't marry at all. I don't believe in the institution of my marriage.
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Interesting point - would make a great point of discussion!
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No. I need to know I can live with someone for a very long time even if we had the misfortune of living in a cardboard box.
Once the money is gone, the false friendship is over.-
rofl @ I'll marry for money...just email me. -
Fairpoint - this is taking shape guys...
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if u marry for money ...you are marrying money ...-
With this $ I thee wed!
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Well, I haven't ever married,
but looking back, I'd say that
three of my ex-lovers were
primarily attracted to me
because of my money. (That
was back when I HAD a bunch
of money!)
Aside from that, I totally
believe in relationships
based on love, where money
is NOT a consideration.
And then again, aside from
that, yes, I would marry for
money, on my own terms, as
I spelled out a while ago in
a 'Seven Random Things' meme...
See point #5 if you're curious:
jayapurrs.blogspot.com/2007/06/7-random-things-tag-im-it.html-
Great answer and thanks fro sharing that wonderful point of illustration!!
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Still single? :-P
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how much money you got? LOL
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I married for love. If there's ever a next time, I'm marrying someone with a foot fetish because I love foot massages. Love and money be damned.-
So you'd marry for foot attention then?!
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Nothing permanent about money I prefer to have something I can carry with me through my life like a smile and a hug -
Since most of my friends are from other countries I have had many proposals to marry them for money. I've had to decline... I guess i'm the hopeless romantic - but its cute when a girl says 'Green Card' with an Eastern European accent. -
My last wife did that to me.-
Was she worth it?
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I still dont wanna marry though, because im already married. lol!
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I married for love.
However if an arrangement is made between two people where they are both benefiting and honest about what they are looking for, I am not going to judge that. To each their own.-
Great attitude!
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Had my chance to marry a really good man, who was very wealthy. Just couldn't do it no matter how great the temptation. I married for love instead.-
From the heart, T - many thanks for your contribution!
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No way! -
My wife is broke and I have less than she does so I would say in our case we married for love not money. There are defiantly people that mary for money. I'm just not one of them.-
Thanx for sharing too.
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For money or for love? I prefer love to money -
I would marry for character, integrity, and good moral compass. To me, love is a choice. If it's just something I fall into, I can fall out of it again. Therefore, I could make a choice to love a man with money and behave in his best interest. I could choose to love him and choose to do that in the unconditional, sacrificial way that love should be. But I certainly would NOT marry a man who chooses to sit around on his assets instead of making a living. Love is grand, but it don't keep the lights turned on or food on the table.-
Gee, Ann, you're just what that question needed. That's exactly what my grandmother would have said.
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Love is indeed a choice - it sometimes 'pays' to remember that, right?
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"To me, love is a choice."
Excellent! I word it just a bit differently saying that "love is a decision", but I've said this for years. But yes, love is not something that happens to you, it is something that you do, it is a verb, not a noun.
Sadly I did not come to this understanding until after I had neglected two major relationships to death. -
That is my sentiment too. I obviously did not marry for money. But that does not make my marriage a wonderful one. Money is important.
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You need money to cover the basics or it causes some serious marriage issues BUT you should marry for love with a foundation of financial stability. When my wife and I got married she was finishing college and I worked for a company that started bouncing my payroll checks 6 months after getting married.
At one point during the beginning of our marriage I took a job for $7.50 an hour to take care of the bills while she was still in school.
Fast forward to almost 10 years later I pull in over 6 figures. I know she married me for love so when the $ does come in you can appreciate it and enjoy it together with your family.-
Thanks for sharing kickingback.
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No way, when I think of what makes me happy it has nothing to do with money. I just love to spend time with my boyfriend, going for a walk, making dinner, drinking wine in the evening....-
Smelling the flowers, then! Great.
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I have another question "Would you marry just so you were not alone"
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Nope. I LIKE being alone,
which is probably why I
have never married! And
of course I mean alone, as
in without HUMANS around...
but I do need CATS around!!!
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Marrying for loneliness is a sign of cowardness it means that person is not ready to take responsibility for keeping themselve company and happy and marrying for money is sucidal... Why? good question, the hearts is only sastified with one thing alone love and getting stuck in a marriage without love is like sentencing your heart to life imprisonment
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April, I'm not saying money is the end all and be all. But when the lights get turned off and your car gets repossessed, all the walks, dinners, and wine seem to pale in importance suddenly. Where do the ingredients for dinner and where does the wine come from? It's wonderful to dine by candlelight, unless that's the only choice available.
I'm really not a greedy person, but I've found that the grocer, the power company, the water company, the insurance company, the landlord, and a lot of others seem keenly interested in receiving money or not providing services.
Those who say they'd live in a box or under a bridge have likely never tried it. Then, let children come along and see if it would be ok to submit them to that sort of life. Probably not.
My husband and I loved each other because we chose to and made a commitment to stay together and honor our vows. There were days when we didn't like each other, but we always loved each other. We went through some very bad financial times that I wouldn't wish on anyone. Now, I've decided that if I'm to be dirt poor, I can do that very well on my own. I don't need a man to help me with that. As much as I loved my husband, I really don't want to go through those kinds of trials again. It zaps the life right out of you and breaks your heart daily.
If I marry again, the man will have an income. I'm too old to live in fear of the phone calls from creditors or the sound of someone in the driveway coming to take my car away. I'll leave all that to young romantics because, gosh, it sure is a lot of fun. Not.-
From the heart stuff - thanx.
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Robinj, it's entirely possible I might marry to not be alone. I liked being married. I liked knowing the person I went to bed with at night loved me and thought of me enough during the day to give me a phone call now and then. I am pretty self-sufficient, so I suppose I don't *need* a spouse. But it's been nearly 2 years since my husband passed away and I am lonely a lot of the time.
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Thanx for your honesty here - a great example!!
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Everyone knows that marriage only costs you money. It isn't going to make you any money. -
Homeschoolzoo I like being married too but I think if you are lonely it is a reflection of self and not something someone else can cure....however having said that my 80 yr old Mother has a companion who visits once a week and I am sure it is not a Gone with the wind scenario....so I think everybody has to determine what their concept of happiness and fulfillment is and live their lives accordingly regardless of what others think
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Thanks Robin...food for thought..
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Unless you've spent too many days in a row without someone dear to you to confide in, it's hard to understand the difference between being alone and loneliness. I miss that kind of relationship. I miss coffee talks in the morning and country roads on a hot summer's day with someone who is able to nearly read your thoughts before you speak the words. I don't believe loneliness is part of self. Loneliness is a yearning that you can't satisfy on your own. It goes very deep into the soul.
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hm never, i want to marry for love, if the person has money then that's just a bonus.-
How big a bonus though? :0)
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My wife and I were not practical enough to do that. And we're still pretty impractical from that point of view.
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We're with ya stoneman!
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ahhh YES! Why is marrying for love so much more noble than financial security.-
ONe of the few to admit for cash!! $$$$
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i'll not marry for money coz i provide the money =)-
Fair play to you!
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I'll marry the person who asks! -
When my husband and I married, we were both just starting out in our respective careers, and financially it was sometimes quite a struggle. Once established, though, he has always made considerably more money than I have. We could live on his income alone rather easily if we chose to.
On the other hand, my work as a researcher has earned a certain amount of non-monetary recognition through my writing, conference presentations, and so on. So, my husband likes to tell people that "We have a true partnership -- I earn the money, but Bobbie's the one who brings honor to our name." He says it as sort of a tease, but I choke up every time I hear it.-
Now that is a great thing. Sounds like you have a keeper!
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Fair comment well made - thanks for sharing....
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Thanx for answering this, honest as always...
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I would marry first for love. All other gifts including money is a blessing, to be appreciated and give thanks for. -
Marry?
Huh?
Oh!
... No, I wouldn't marry.
erm.. I mean I wouldn't marry for money.-
LOL!
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LOVE AND MONEY-
Both but which is more important to you?
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I would not do that.
I know a couple of people who went and got married for money.
Well, they were approached by people who wanted to be able to stay in (COUNTRY) and marriage was they only way and they were willing to and paid them a couple of thousand dollars at the beginning and then a monthly fee for a couple of years as they "kept up appearances". Howz that for marrying for money? Would any of you do it?-
Where do I go? lol
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Love comes first before money alphabetically speaking...lols-
A-Z!
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Well, I certainly didn't marry for money. But it still "paid off" for me. Love is infinitely more important.-
This seems to be the trend. Surely someone here is in it for the cash?
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Depends on what she looks like lol!
But no.. I doubt I will ever marry anyway.
No-one wants me! ;o(
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Now come on we don't believe that for a second!
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I say no I would only marry for love but still it's tempting.... -
No Way !!!-
Honest and straight to the point!
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My mom always said, the first time you marry for love, the second time for money. I think I would marry for money, after being married for so many broke years! But then, that kind of money sometimes makes bad things happen to you so perhaps I wouldn't. People with money can get rid of you if they get tired of you, whereas you and your broke spouse have to just work it out or ignore each other. I don't think I want anybody with enough money to make me disappear because I know I can get on someone's nerves!-
Fair point -good example!
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well love helps get you through the regular bs... I don't think you could put a reasonable dollar sign on that.-
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Maybe so but doesnt everything have a price tag on it?
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Tempting, but no.
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I would not marry for money. But if I loved someone very much and they were wealthy well, it would not be something to be sad about, would it?-
Honest at least!
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I would marry him or her if they made me Ad Rich baby! A ProBlogger gold diggin adsense rich , blog talkin wifey.-
Cool answer zawadi..
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Out of topic - did you know your name means 'gift' in Swahili?
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If I didn't give a poo I would. But that's not me, so No!-
Honest answer, thanx.
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Just for money? No. But not just for "love", either.-
An original answer MadameX- care to share the % balance of Love n money?
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I think there's a lot more involved than love and money. For me, sharing my core values and religious convictions would be more important than either.
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I'm a romantic and would not marry for money unless I love the rich guy.-
Love the rich guy - lol.!!
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I don't believe in the institution of marriage. I do believe in commitment but I do not believe a paper will make it more official or true.
However society is geared towards marriage. There's too many privileges that comes with marriage that you would not get by just being "domestic partners"
I am finding that out now.. like health insurance or even tax exemptions.. little things but it does make a difference
I would not marry for money or love... I think that sharing values among other things are important aspect of a relationship.. perhaps if you value money.. you would marry for money.. but money can also be lost-
More honesty from the crew - these answers are great!!!
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I would not marry for money. Money could never buy happiness!-
I agree that money could not buy happiness! I am married for love and have enough money for being happy. -
Only love but no money would buy no happiness too. We still need to eat, have energy then can think and love. The best is have love and have money. You don't need to be rich, but the right senses and morality and a positive way of life that lead according to God's way. A god-fearing person make good partner I think.
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i want to get married, but no one with the money wants to take the risk, lmao^^ -
I've been periodically reading the responses to this thread, and it seems that the vast majority of people think they wouldn't marry for money. I say "think they wouldn't" because I think that there's an element in play that we all tend to overlook, and that often people who "marry for money" aren't even cognizant of the fact that that's what they're doing. Money creates a lot of options--vacations and restaurants and social events that one might never have been exposed to before, for instance. Money also solves a lot of problems, and can instill a new sense of freedom and security. I think it might be very easy for someone, especially someone inexperienced, to mistake the feelings associated with all of that for feelings for the person providing it.
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Dead right MadameX - well observed.
Thinking and doing are 2 entirely different things and we can often change and be influenced as we get older.
Thanks for all contributions - unless any wil openly admit to ' yep, money did it for me' ! It gives people chocie granted but can cause as many problems as it solves, in particular petty issues.
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I might have when I was younger but I wouldn't for anything now. -
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In the experience I had a friend go through thats a big NO! -
MAY...
Maybe yes...
Maybe No...
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Hmm, we're not conivnced! ;-)
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Oh Shit. No i'm NOT.-
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I only marry for dowries. If you want in with my family, it's going to cost you a goat and possibly some chickens, along with some decorative beads.-
but would you marry Mr Ed
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Nah...I'm a colt - I need a nice filly....preferrably one with a nice speed influence that is about to go into heat.
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oh sorry...mr Eds sister
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Nope. Money I can earn. Will marry someone who will love and care for me but making his own money.
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never, but for love-
Fair play to you!
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In all seriousness, I think Madamex's reply rings truest for me. As much as we'd like to think otherwise, everyone gets "married for money" to a certain degree. I know my wife and I planned on buying a house together and starting a family, something neither of us could do on our individual salaries alone, so yes, there is a sort of financial partnership aspect that is underwritten (for lack of a better term) to the arrangement.
In our heart of course we married for traditional reasons, i.e., to formally anounce our intentions in front of friends/family and to celebrate our butts off.
You know, another aspect that touches on the "for money" bit is the fact that everyone I know (including us) looked forward to the inevitable "wedding presents" bestowed upon us. Seems kind of selfish when I state it as such but to be absolutely honest about it, we used a great deal of that money for our house downpayment.
So yeas....in many levels I think even marriages born out of love are also done for money...at least to a certain degree.-
Fair! Will a cheque do?
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Do couples really make money out of a wedding? I thought weddings usually cost a LOT and any gifts would just be subsidies of the event.
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Nope will not. Though our cute puppy logo may do so for a cookie...lol-
LOL Funepets - WOOF!
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No, I wouldn't and have opportunities to do so. I have been married for my money and it was a very, very unsatisfying experience :-) Love and companionship is the only motive.
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I have been married for 17 years.
I married my childhood sweetheart at 19, neither of us married for money but we both won the lottery with each other. -
That's romantic :-)
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Cool attitude!
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That's so hot
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Hell No. I do a lot of things for money, but I take marriage very seriously and I would not marry anyone for money it has to be for love. -
I wouldn't marry for money nor would I marry for poverty. -
I didn't marry for money, but my wife had boatloads of it. I personally had a $2,000 a month allowance.
That was $2,000, in 1981.
When we divorced, I gave it all to her. I didn't take a dime.-
Good for you ghosty!
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No, but let's be real. Money helps and most women, including me, want security. If a man can't take care of himself, how can he take care of a wife and children? Brains and ambition helps and chemistry/friendship are imperative.
I'd never marry for money, though I admit I have understood why some do marry for money. Money provides options and eases one kind of potential stress. -
ghostytwofish...;o)) Integrity. Nice. I did the same thing. -
Nope,
"money ain't everything".
Anyway, it's one of the song of Clay Walker -
I will but the divorce paper is not far! -
The other side of the coin is i always think it must be incredibly difficult for people with money to really trust that someone loves them for who they are and not for their money....here the sizzling skin as i speak...
Stick to jigsaws!! (www.fabulousphotogifts.co.uk) ha ha.
P.S Hi GSTF - i've posted about being a founder over on our blog. Let me know if you'd like me to correct anything.
Jonathan (aka purple13)-
Its perfect J - thanks!!
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Definitely not my friend!
you can share your view of this. I'd be glad to post it in my blog and preview your blog in return.
ngracillaextremes.blogspot.com -
First Marriage was for Love - ended in Divorce
Second Marriage was my best friend - Ended in Divorce
The third marriage will be for Money -
I would for sure, lol.
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My first marriage was for love, so I ended up supporting him till I got sick of it;
second marriage I got lucky, there was both money and love; still his jealousy killed it-
Shame - gotta let you grow and be freeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!
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I forgot to mention that Green Card was a determining factor in the first marriage
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No, I'm getting married this year and he definitely has no money.-
LOL S!
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Been married for 31+ years to the same man, married for love.
I'd marry for money but not money alone. -
Yes.
I'd marry for a greencard or an European passport too.-
LOL!
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Not just Money -
I'm ridiculously in love with my husband. And he seems to think I'm pretty special. But I doubt I would have married him if he didn't have a stable life style, a good job, the ability to take care of my children. I did the marriage for love only thing as a teenager and it turned out pretty horrible. This time around, I wanted someone who put a priority on keeping the bills paid, taking care of me, keeping a job. I wouldn't leave him if he lost his job or his money. But if I'm honest, I wouldn't have married him if he hadn't been as stable and established as he is now.
C'est la vie,
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I didn't marry for money and look where it got me
Maybe I should give it a whirl, how much we talking? fiver, tenner, what? -
Don't think I could do that! Only for money? No.-
Honest enough!
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dear @ll,
have you ever heard of a man telling the woman he loves:
mylove, if you like, you can go to work, but you never ever have to. if you do it for fun, that´s fine. if you only do it for money, stop it. i have enough you can spend. i want you to spend all my money. i just love to see you doing that. i love you, so no matter for what.
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That is probably a very valid question.
How much money and does she make good sandwiches? -
How much is enough?
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Though I'll not marry for money, but I seriously advise those to give more thought to marriage if they don't have money to support the future family.-
Fair point -gotta be sustainable!
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The only way I'd marry for money is if the guy was 95 years old and had a heart condition. Just make sure the will is made out in your favour!
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Well, nothing wrong with marrying into money as long as you love that other person (for who he/she is and not because of the money
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i wouldn't when I was young. But, I'm in my early 40's, i would say "yes" because I know the importance of money now.
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Marry for money......no way..... you need an understanding partner who can help you make more money rather... -
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Depends on what he looks like. lol
I personally think that its best to marry for LOVE, but more then likely, those of you in here that never been married and are saying....Oh NO...not me, I wouldn't marry for money, are under the age of 30 and my guess is never been married. -
I would...please find me a sugarmamma!!! -
I would definitely not marry for money. But, if I did. I would be one of the wealthiest women on this planet at this moment. Wonder why I said so?
Well, it's for me to know. -
Yes,yes! It's a good reason. MOney doesn't grow old. -
No. I would not. I think love should be the defining aspect of marriage. Love and compatibility.-
Dammit we were going to paypal you a proposal ;-)
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No...I would only marry for exceptional good looks, cooking skills, and an ability to de-ice the car...female bits and bobs would be an advantage.-
LOL with the bits n bobs RR!
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I'll marry someone if I'm in love and if I know he's in love with me too;
If he's rich, that's a bonus for me!
If I meet someone and we fall in love but he's got no money, I probably won't marry him (unless he asks and we go for a very small wedding) because it costs so much to get married!
I am very fussy anyway and I always put my kids first so I probably will wait until my kids are old enough to get married and leave the house and then I'll get some cats (no, I don't like cats; I'll probably just haunt a few internet dating sites) -
I certainly wouldn't. My life is about happiness, which (for me,) is rarely about money. As the old adage goes; Marrying for money is the hardest way to get it.-
Too true!
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hahahaha. I will ask you. Would like your partner to marry you because your money? No way. -
No, life is too short, I'd rather have a good laugh and fun than a million pounds.-
Not all live like that though....
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No way, what would be the point? yes you may have your finacial needs met, but that's all, and I agree life is far to short -
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Well Rich - how much is enough?
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I dunno. I could imagine a lot though.
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Are you really rich/. coz I'm unmarried.
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Only if I got to keep a lover on the side...:)
Just kidding..no, I wouldn't do it. My happiness is worth more than any amount of money. -
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LOL!
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Why not! Provided that man has a sound logical mind, No psychological problem such as alcoholism and violent attitude, an- under- the-skirt - husband so I will be His Commander le chief for pocket and wealth affairs! No other wife 'till He dies. Cause I am marrying the pocket the man and His states Proprietorship domain! In Inclussion Hmmm!
Wanna Say?
"No Love at first bite..Only Bank Account and Allowance!" -
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As a man why not women do all the time?
Its sad but a reality-
Harsh but fair!
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Money is appealing and tempting, but I won't marry for money alone. I'm pretty self-sufficient, and depending on others doesn't appeal to me much, more so having to marry someone just because of wealth. I believe how vital money is in building a family. However, I believe compatibility is more important - in terms of interests and values. Because the man I marry would be the first person I see in the morning and the last person I see at night and someone I would spend most of my time with, we better be compatible.
More than a rich husband, I need someone I can talk to in the same level, someone who can relate to my stories, someone who can laugh at my jokes. For me that's love - the meeting not only of the heart but of the mind. -
ha! what a silly question! here(in india) most(almost all) of the marriages are only be done for bribe(money)!
no money means no marriage!
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A fair pint Mrs India...
I do!
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5 or more years ago the answer would have been no. Now, why the heck not??
I wouldn't be out gold digging like that's the only thing to marry for, but after how many relationships with broke men, why not let "relative financial independence" be just another characteristic/?? required? Some people may require that their significant other is funny or outgoing or whatever, why not have all of the characteristics your looking for with money or a decent amount of money on top? I guess it also depends on how you ask the question, like would you marry someone super rich just because they are super rich or would you marry someone with average finances that has all the other qualities your looking for? I think the vast majority of people have certain financial requirements they look for when marrying. I happen to have been going the opposite direction! Never too late to join the band wagon I guess! LOL -
For what it's worth:
My father observed that it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich girl, as with a poor one.
True enough.
However, I believe that choosing a marriage partner exclusively for monetary gain is, at best, misguided.
For me, it gets more complicated. My wife and I were married in the Catholic church (I didn't become Catholic until later - more complications). Marriage is one of the sacraments of the Catholic church - and profiting from the sale, rent, or lease of a sacrament is strictly prohibited.
Secular marriages and those conducted by churches (Christian and otherwise) for which marriage is not a sacrament are another bucket of fish. That's why I wasn't as upset about Anna Nicole Smith's deal with J. Howard Marshall. I still feel sorry for Marshall's son, but Anna Nicole apparently made a deal with Howard: and a deal's a deal.-
Thanks for sharing Norski!
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No, I am not getting married again anyway. But if I did it would not be for money. My last boyfriend wanted to marry me for money tho. He was not he working type. -
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Kinda solves that one then!
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@islanesia and rearvumirr
I think you may have missed the date on the post above your own.-
This one's been hauled back from the brink more than once, but I've never read it.
As for me, I would but my husband won't let me. (That'd be my facetious way of saying that I didn't. I wouldn't, really. That's too close to, errrr, selling it on the street. Not an image of myself that would let me sleep well.)
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Holy ... what??? If marriages were based on a bank account, I married a really small one.
Uh, no--I honestly married for love--doesn't that make you all oogey and stuff? It was a flower that started it all, too. You two should like that.-
Oh the joys of flowers eh Annie Pooh!
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I can't say that it's bad. In many cases marriage for mony is more succsessful than for love. Like my granny used to say... when poverty knocks the door, love runs away from the window.
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When you are looking at a potential SO, sometimes you think about their financial status aside from their other assets. Marrying for money happens to those people who want to enjoy the ride...-
Fairs fair!
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Hell friggin' yeah!*
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I married for a visa once.
That aside, I would say that skint blokes try harder. -
no way. unless you like being treated like a trophy. with loss of self respect, eventually. been there done that. it's not worth it.
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Still, I hope you got a good deal out of it. I am still bitter that my ex took me for half and rarely sees the kids. Kharma will get him.
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Rarely sees the kids? That sucks.
A good friend of mine, who is married with two kids always says this.
"I tell my wife that if she ever wants to divorce, that's fine, then we will be roommates, 'cause I ain't leaving my kids!!!"
I feel the same way.
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I believe what goes around comes around. He'll have his day!
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Best watch out!
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Yes - as long as i don't have to marry the person giving me that money.
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Hee hee.
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Money matters, but not that much.
Money is part of life not a heart of life.
Money is itself selfish sometime with you sometime not, how could you base on money.
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I do know of someone who set out to look for a rich husband and she found one but then it actually turned into a great and sincere love story. When things changed she was happy to stay with him in a tiny flat. They have one of the happiest and longest marriages I know of.
However, I don't agree with money being a motivation for marriage.
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Money is not the most important, but money is still important.
Find your other half you would love to spend rest of your days with, and yet make sure he work hard and can cover for household expenses.
After all, money is still one of sources of problems, arguments, and divorce! -
waahh..definitely no way!-
Really - how we agree!
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I think marrying for money is the most important thing ever. Of course, I'm already happily married, and we're both poor as stones .. so please find a way to give my wife a lot of money :-) -
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when we were decide to get married, we both are having no money at all, but now we have enough money to keep our family alive. It sounds good to get married for money and instant better quality of life, but that won't stand for long!! once the money is gone then honey also disappear, no money no honey...
I won't do that, as 'Money is a very loyal slave but very mean boss'-
Nice analogy Bali!
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Marry for money? Why not? But first I must make my skin thick, devoid myself of all emotions and self-respect; be ready to be abused. Better still - make myself a robot.
But on a second thought: Surely, out there in the universe there must be at least one single woman who is not only very rich, but is also the picture of kindness and beauty. The one who respects pure love, faithful love, and has such a benign smile that would put the sunshine to shame. I know there is such a woman.
On a third thought: If there is such a woman what's the use. I have passed the prime of my life. So that woman also needs to be a saint to like a person who has crossed his Sixties. -
Who's proposing?
How much do I get?
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Okay, honestly, I would ONLY marry for love...or not at all!
The money just doesn't warm my heart or make me feel very passionate.
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I've been a widower for the past 8 years. I'm so desperate I'd marry for money, no money, warts, bunions, halitosis, acne, athlete's foot, carbuncles, dermatitis, eczema, hives, mange, psoriasis, or zits. I'd consider everything from a church choir director to a retired prostitute.
Must me neat, orderly, clean, and well-spoken though.
I'm fussy.-
You sound like Larry Flynt
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I am rolling of the floor!!!
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i'd marry for store coupons.
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I could have married for great wealth, many times, but I opted for love.
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This is the mindset problem. I believe there is people marry purely for money and I believe love based on money, the foundation is quite shaky.
Totally with no money, how to marry? At least with sufficient money, no need so rich, with the right mindset, life is ready fun. -
Anyone who says no is a liar. People marry for only one reason, security. People don't marry for the sake of love, they marry because love makes them feel safe. Money is just another form of security. Anyone who says they won't marry for money simply hasn't had the opportunity or hasn't figured out the right sum in order to make them say yes. Since most people aren't in the position to marry for money they are happy to go through life believing that they wouldn't and that they got married because they were in love. -
Sure for the right price I'd marry. But who will start the offer?
I'm betting I'm like the 100th guy on this topic to say YES.-
us guys are a little less picky about who we have sex with too.
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love between the sheets or money in the bank, the choice is personal.
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Sincerely I wouldn't for the simple fact that you might be happy for a while, but not for long if you don't love the person. Once you have everything that money can buy and do everything that you wanted or dreamed of doing, Then What? You don't have that special someone to be with, love and cherish for the rest of your life. So definitely no!! -
did once, it was like legal prostitution! mutual pact, we both got a visa, we both got money and we both have no regrets. marriage in this light is nothing more than a business deal. I plan to marry again soon, but this time for love!
the 2 are completely separate entities IMO
You gotta look at it for what it is, a service transaction, take the stigma that goes with the term marriage out and you are cruising. In the end if you are not into being a "trophy" etc then there is no reason to do it.-
you make my point well. Marriage is about some sort of security and love doesn't have to enter into the picture. Until last century marrying for love was considered trivial, you did it to increase you station and provide stability for your family and the children you wanted to have.
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No, I'm married already and can't afford it. ;-)-
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Nope, won´t marry for money. My husband and I have worked together, and we have become close during this time, 26 years now. We have grown through the struggles, and the lows and highs and different trials have made us stronger, and yes, more in love. -
I'm married to money.
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Goodness I was bitter last time I replied to this old thread.
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I would NEVER marry for money. Marriage is sacred and should be about love and commiment. The divorce rate is so high and that's terrible. I don't judge people who date casually or like to have fun. But when it comes to marriage, that is a serious step and relationship, and should be for love. If you need money, go earn it. -
Hey Jim ('n' all...),
I was engaged once upon a time... and I left. Why? Because in the end I wasn't certain it was me it wanted to be with... more that he wanted to be married. It has to be about committment above and beyond anyone else... to the person you're married to.
So I'm in the "marry for love" camp I guess!
As long as I was marrying someone that I had 100% confidence in, and there was a regular demonstration of that in both directions... I'd marry them regardless. I'd rather be living in a cardboard box with the right person than a mansion with all the trimmings with the wrong one.
Speaking of which... I'm in the process of throwing out more stuff as I unpack. Less possessions suits me just fine!! -
No. Once the money runs out, then what is left?
Hymns of Faith Ministries
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Married for 31 years now and having raised 16 kids - money, thankfully, NEVER was the issue...
And, now that we are old enough to do the things were could not afford to do these last three decades - we don't want too. My wife and I simply enjoy each others company too much to let money dictate our love for one another or how happy we are in one anothers company! -
y not, i will cause i have a reason behind it. if person is having love with him then no money exist. and if money is there the no love exis. so i wud like to njoy with money first at this age of time. and love will be with me in old age.
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Since my first two marriages were for love or at least something like that I would say no. There is nothing like being in love and I can't imagine spending that much time with someone just for money. However, both of my exes were flat broke when I married them and the divorces sunk us even more. Currently unmarried at the moment I would be happy to fall in love with a man who had lots of money. They are just as deserving of good love.-
i will fall in love withh you my queen but i don't have money i have love again for you.
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I could never do it. I would be bored living with someone I didn't love. What if I loathed that person? ugh! -
I had my opportunities, but no, passed on them.-
How much?
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No, I wouldn't marry for money. If I marry someone, it will be for sharing my life with him (the laughter, the joy, the happiness, the sadness, etc) , not for the money. -
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I still believe in the Sanctity of marriage. And there should only one single reason why you wanted to marry "it's because YOU LOVE him/her" and not because of anything else.. -
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No, but i wouldn't marry a man incapable of making money either. My husband was earning less than me when we met and decided to get married; but I knew he would make more than me in a couple of years (it was his first job). And that's the way it's turned out, allowing me to take a three year break in between my career and stay at home with the kids. I agree with homeschoolzoo- you wouldn't want the lights to be shut off and the mortgage unpaid; and you'd definitely prefer it if you could have stay at home options, annual vacations abroad etc. So maybe not marrying for money, but money should definitely be somewhere in the picture -
A picture would be nice!
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I used to say NO..I won't..BUT my Ex-boyfriendS left when they found someone who earns better than I do..whoa!! Well, the early part of my relationship were Ok, but when we're beginning to think about settling down..those boyfriends seem to change..HMM..I am beginning to think --money..money changes everything! Guess, I'll "probably" say YES now!..but I still have doubt if I'll be married to a rich rich guy, will I have EVERYTHING i really want in life? ..will he be "faithful" to me? ..won't I still get hurt?
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why not, in this day and age the men without money are the irresponsible ones while the men with money are responsible....
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I wouldn't marry specifically for money, but money is attractive just like looks, intelligence, a sense of humor, etc. In other words, it doesn't hurt your chances.-
Agreeeddddd....
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Love counts. Trust even more. Understanding is the most important of all.If you got money with it..thats great. But money really doesnt, at all buy happiness..and yes I know where to shop.. and Im still sticking to it. So No i wouldnt marry for money -
I think people might have money as one of the requirements of a potential spouse but I think a tolerable personality and not being butt ugly are also factors. Sometimes the person marrying for money is good looking and will be a trophy wife or trophy husband of the spouse. My hope is that money attacts but love bonds and leads to a good relationship and no one is a user. -
All the money in the world is not worth being tied to someone I don't love.-
I do
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Money can buy anything but u can't buy "LOVE"
i WON'T MARY FOR money... Your relationship won't last.
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i had that opportunity. i turned it down. it might be cliche but money won't make you happy, it can help but it doesn't fix something that's broken. -
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Fair enough - unlimted credit?!
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Absolutely not! Not because of moral issues but because I can make my own.
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No, No One should marry for money, because it is something but not everything...........
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It depends on who I was marrying. If I was already dating a person that I liked and that person suddenly came into money, that would probably add to my reasons for staying in a relationship. However, I would not just up-and-marry anyone based exclusively on money. It's not really worth it because you're trading your time for money when you can go and find someone who you really like and who really likes you also. Plus, the relationship will be uneven when it comes to responsibilities and the person with money will always have the upper-hand.
People who marry for money pay for it in other ways because the person that they marry will usually turn out to be some a-hole who holds that over them.
Everyone has some motive as to why they are marrying whether it's for money, unplanned pregnancy, status, health benefits, green cards, professional contacts, etc.
Unfortunately, that whole notion no "unconditional love" is so rare in the 21st century that it might as well be considered an extra benefit.
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typo alert:
I meant,
Unfortunately, that whole notion "of", not "no" in,
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That's a good question. -
Sure! I will say with a big round money hunger eyes "I Do!" :-) Yes! Finally there is a hope to have a James Bond life. -
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After 40 years of marriage, I say to my hubby that next time round it will be for the money. Only kidding, but many people think that it's better to be miserable and loaded than miserable and skint.-
Congrats on the big 40!
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If a woman wanted to marry me and she was much wealthier then myself, then heck yes I would do it. It wouldn't matter what she looked like or how old she was, I would do it in a heartbeat, and I'd be a good husband! -
No. I had a chance to a few years ago. I felt sick to my stomach thinking about being with the guy, even though he would give me anything that I wanted - car, clothes, trips, etc.... So now, I'm poor. =\ but if I find love and happiness in my life, I don't care if I'm poor. -
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No way! I'm very content working for my money!!!! I love my job anyway! -
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ONLY for LOVE...
But hopefully the money will come along the way... LOL!
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